Sitting there at the edge of the bed as my three-year old is falling asleep for nap time, I glance to the closet and see my nine-year old’s old gym shoes, sitting there, still, nothing happening. Looking at them, I think of the life my son gives to this object, he runs, he jumps, he ties them. He has used them, they have holes. He is so hard on his shoes! I can hardly believe it. Scanning the objects around me, the books, the beds, the blankets,etc. Amazing the life we bring to them. Amazing the memories we keep from them. His sweater, I take it down, it is blue, zips up in the front and I can picture him as a three-year old. Emotional, tears form and I think he will never be three again. Continue with the closet clean out, I am about to give this simple sweater away, no, I am going to keep it for 30 more years. His son will wear it. Maybe. Years ago before having children, I came home from work, my husband was traveling, alone, I was sitting on the couch, staring at the blank t.v. and thought how we give so many inanimate objects life. Without our existence they mean nothing. They are things, they sit, they don’t move. We move, we live, we give life. Objects they help us form memories, feelings, thoughts. My mind, returning to his athletic shoes, grateful they were sitting there and grateful for the journey of an inanimate object.
Adventure land for kids, William loved parks as a toddler. He still loves parks but we have come a long way since one of our first outings to the park. It was a perfect day for the park, I along with one of my friends and her little boy walked to a park down the street from our home. William was so excited to be there! I was excited for him! He played, he ran, he slid down the slides and climbed the stairs. At some point the park fun was going to need to end. That time came. I let William know it was time to go, his stroller was waiting and a simple thing I thought, he will get back in the stroller. All will be good. Surely, he will understand he has had his fun, it is time to go home. Wrong. I was met with an outraged little boy. I wrestled him into his stroller, that was that, we had an audience by this time. I was sweating and flushed from the wrestling match. He and I both feeling defeated. It was a turning point for me. I thought to myself, there had to be a different way. There was something that I had missed. A few days later I was visiting with my friend, she had some books on her table. I can’t remember if it was sitting out, or if she went to get it, but the book was there, The Happiest Toddler on the Block by Harvey Karp, M.D. I went home, I visited amazon.com and made one of my first book purchases as a stay at home mom. Happiest Toddler changed my perspective on working with my child and what he needed from me. I continue to be grateful for the introduction to this book. One of the parts that stands out to me and has become part of my daily routine–I used it with William, Isabella and currently with Liam–is Toddler-ese. Toddler-ese is a way of speaking to Toddlers in a way that makes sense to them. Short phrases, acknowledging feelings, repeating back to them and showing them that you understand how they feel by mirroring their gestures and tone. I know, it may sound crazy and when tried this new language, it felt a little uncomfortable, but I have used it and I can verify that it works! So, if you are having trouble communicating with your kiddo, learn toddler-ese. I recommend The Happiest Baby on the Block to everyone who interacts with toddlers. It is a great resource. The next time we adventured to the park, we were able to leave in happier spirits.
I have been thinking about my blog and my writings. There is so much that goes on in life. My original thoughts of My Humorous Mommy Life! as I turned around and found my toddler on the table was wow! I could really not like that or hey, I can find the humor in this and laugh about it. That day I sat down and wrote about my day, I chose to look at things with a sense of humor. I was grateful I did. I also know in my life, there are so many different things that go on in a day when it comes to being a mom, when it come to being a parent, when it comes to being human. So much of the time we forget about how well we do and how much we accomplish! In the everyday, there are so many things that we have to, want to, hope to do. Sometimes it is for our children, sometimes it is for ourselves or others. I would like to open up my writing to include the many different adventures that are involved in my life as each day progresses. My biggest adventure right now, hence the title of this blog is motherhood, though there are other adventures that are experienced as well. In my re-thinking process, I have adjusted the title of my blog a bit to My Humorous Mommy Life! And, the Everyday Adventures of I Did It! Thank you for reading and I look forward to your comments, ideas, suggestions! If you are on facebook, like My Humorous Mommy Life!